Dealing With Nerves On My Wedding Day

I've suffered with anxiety for many years, but I've learnt to manage it, so generally it isn't a problem (most of the time). And if there's ever a time that it could be a problem I try to put measures in place to reduce or eliminate the possible anxiety. My anxiety can be triggered by extra stress, worry, or from social settings. When it came to organising my wedding I knew this was a time that I had to put measures in place to help reduce that anxiety. I didn't think I'd be able to completely eliminate it, but that was fine, just reducing it would help towards me enjoying the day. After all if a bride and groom can't enjoy their wedding day what are we planning it for?

We can't always know when anxiety will trigger, or what will trigger it, but I've had enough experience with what can trigger it to know some of the measures to put into place. Here are some of the ways I helped reduce the possibility of anxiety taking over me on one of the most important and special days of my life.

No head table. I chose not to have a head table, there was just a small table for Keith and I. I had originally wanted it set to the side so I really wasn't centre of attention, but it was set out without me present and when I saw the set up I did agree it looked better central to the room. My other reason for not having a head table was because I didn't want the formality of a head table. I wanted a more informal day where people felt free to come over to speak to me. This is just what I personally wanted, I do think head tables can look great, but going with what I felt more comfortable with was going to help me to be far more relaxed