Monday, 16 July 2018

Not Too Old To Be Mum - Sam

This week’s "Not Too Old To Be Mum" is with Sam from Mummy Market.





First of all congratulations on your baby. How old were you when you had your baby/babies?

I was 42 when I had my son Jack.
Tell me a bit about yourself and your main reasons for having a child(ren) after the age of 35?

My name is Sam, married to John for 7 yrs after meeting in Cornwall. My son Jack is four and I have two teenage step boys.  I've always wanted to be a mum since I was little. I loved my dollies and really looked after them. I had  a couple of long term relationships, the last one being 13 yrs and particularly abusive and before I knew it I was in my late thirties.

Saturday, 14 July 2018

Summer Tips for Staying Cool





Summer is a wonderfully energising and uplifting season that fills us with optimism yet when the sun is really beating down on us, like it has been in the past few weeks, we can often feel drained and lethargic, perhaps even agitated… as we’re not really set-up for such hot weather in this country.


In places like Spain, the siesta is a common coping mechanism to deal with the midday heat as are the wooden shutters on the windows and air conditioning units.  Here, we rely on going to the supermarket and grabbing one of the last remaining fans, and opening the UPVC windows as far as they will extend.

Friday, 13 July 2018

Your Home Doesn’t Have to be a Source of Stress for You

Life throws enough stressful situations your way with your career and your family, without also dealing with stress caused by your home. Whether it’s a lack of space, poor room layouts or something else entirely; there are many ways in which your home might stress you out. But what matters is that you don’t let that happen. You can do plenty of things to make your home a less stressful place for you to spend time. Here are some ideas that might help.


Add More Comfort


Comfort is a really big deal, but it’s one of those things that people see as being in conflict with style, even if that’s not the case at all. Don't be the person who chooses stylish but uncomfortable furniture items for your home just because they’ll look better. If you want your home to adequately meet your needs, it has to offer that little extra comfort.

Monday, 9 July 2018

Not Too Old To Be Mum - Helen

This week’s "Not Too Old To Be Mum" is with Helen from Welsh Mum Writing.
First of all congratulations on your baby. How old were you when you had your baby/babies?

I became pregnant with my son at 40 and had him at 41. He’s our only child.




Tell me a bit about yourself and your main reasons for having a child(ren) after the age of 35?
I didn’t meet my husband until I was in my early thirties, and got married at 36.  Before then, I thought I wanted children but the time and relationship was never right. I’d decided I would probably pursue it on my own and then I met my husband. I think many women find themselves in that position – men too.

Friday, 6 July 2018

Classy Bedroom Upgrades

If there’s one room we all love the idea of upgrading, it’s the bedroom. But if there’s one room that we all leave until the very last minute to upgrade, it’s the bedroom. However, if you know your time has come to upgrade your bedroom a little bit, why not make it classy. Classy never seems to reach the bedroom, but there’s no reason why it shouldn’t do. We spend most of our time in there, and we love to feel comfortable and happy in the room. Adding that little bit of class into the mix helps to spice things up a little, and that’s exactly what we want to do for you today. Have a read of the tips we’ve got below for you, and add a bit of class to your bedroom.



Thursday, 5 July 2018

Home: Why Spend More When You Can Do This!

It always seems to be spend, spend, spend, when it comes to the home. The more we spend, the less we seem to get out of it! Right from the first moment that you decide to buy a home, things get expensive. But here’s some news for you, it isn’t going to stop unless you do something about it! We’re always so hell bent on spending for our home, that it’s time to start thinking about how we can save money, even on the most expensive of purchases. If you’re stuck for ideas that actually work, like a lot of people are, then here are some of our best that we think will really benefit you. Have a read on to find out more.



Monday, 2 July 2018

Not Too Old To Be Mum - Jenny

This week’s "Not Too Old To Be Mum" is with Jenny from The Brick Castle.





First of all congratulations on your baby. How old were you when you had your baby/babies?

My baby is a bit big now. I was 22 when I had my oldest son, and 38 when I had my youngest. I had another 3 children in between. 
Tell me a bit about yourself and your main reasons for having a child(ren) after the age of 35?
In common with a lot of people nowadays, I've had two long-term relationships. I was with my ex for 15 years, then single, then with my current partner, who himself had 2 children. We really wanted another child to bring the family together and the kids were keen too. We had a big house and all the toys we'd ever need. Once we had him, we realised he would end up alone once all the big kids went away, so if we wanted company for him we'd have to be quick. My personal comfortable limit was age 38. 



Did you have any problems with falling pregnant? If you did, would you say age was a contributing factor?
No. In fact it was ridiculously easy. I fell pregnant first month at age 35, and with my youngest 18 months later, I discovered I was pregnant 6 days after we made the decision to have a baby.
Did you have any complications with your pregnancy or labour that you feel were caused by being older?

No I didn't. I was very lucky in that none of my pregnancies were in any way exciting, although I was tested repeatedly for diabetes - they were obsessed with the idea I might have it. My youngest was born on the living room floor with no pain relief, while 3 of my other children sat in the kitchen eating sandwiches. 



Were you treated differently by medical professionals because of your age? If you were, how did that make you feel?

Yes I was. When I was 22 they treated me quite like a child and I didn't have things explained to me. I felt they thought of me more as a bystander. At 38 medical professionals treat you more as an expert and have more respect for you, plus you are able to stand your ground more. I was allowed a home birth, but warned it could be very dangerous because of my age and they'd rather not, despite sailing through pregnancy and all of my labours. 
If you had children before and after you were 35, were there any differences with the pregnancy, labour and you as a parent? Would you put these down to age differences?
I didn't find I was more tired or less able to cope at either age (although growing up we fostered babies, so I was well used to them). Physically I only suffered because I developed a hernia - but the route cause of that happened when I had my first child at 22, so even that wasn't age related. I refused all tests for Downs Syndrome, it was a risk I entered into knowingly and I was happy to stand by. There are far worse things that can happen to your child. 

When you are older, you have the life skills and confidence to stand up for what you want. You are in a position to question the experts and ask why they feel something is necessary. I did find that when I was 22 I followed every rule, but by the time I had my youngest loads of advice had changed, so I was able to look into it and follow the advice I felt was best or scientifically proven. I was told that my 3rd child was too big when she was merely a month old, because she was 103rd centile. By 9 months she was 3rd centile and I was told I had to refer her to the hospital because she wasn't growing. She was, just she was never meant to be big. She was already cruising and crawling and perfectly healthy and active, but didn't fit into a chart. Midwives and other professionals are obsessed with charts and tick boxes nowadays. You can stare at all the charts and read all the books you want, but there's no replacement for hands-on experience, common sense and gut instinct.




What do you feel are the pros and cons for having a baby after 35?
Pros: You are more confident and possibly calmer after 35. You may have had opportunity to develop relevant life skills. You may be in a safer position financially or with your career. If you have waited until 'the time is right' and ticked off your bucket list first, then you might feel more 'complete' as a person.

Cons: As an older parent you are more likely to be 'out of touch' and technology moves more quickly than you will. If you haven't already had children then you will have developed a lifestyle where you are most important and everything you do revolves around your own needs. It's a big change to suddenly become no.2. Your health does fade over time, so you may be bombproof at 20, but you'll likely be a bit stiff and more sluggish at 40! 
Do you plan on having any more children? If not, what are your main reasons? And if you would like more, what worries you the most about the prospect of having more?
I'm not planning any more, I'm done! 38 was my comfortable limit, and 7 children between us was plenty.



If you could do your time over, would you choose to have your children younger?
I'm lucky in that I've tried it both ways and found both to be equally fun. I think I might regret it if I hadn't had children young too, purely because I'm enjoying them being grown ups now, and I'll be a lot older when my youngest two reach Uni. 
What advice do you have for any women thinking of having a child past the age of 35?
Do it. If you want a child then stop thinking about it and do it. You'll never have enough savings, it'll never be the perfect time and you'll always worry, but do it. Don't waste time because one day it will be too late. 




Thanks for taking part Jenny and sharing your story. If you’d like to hear more from Jenny, you can visit her at heblog or over on InstagramTwitterFacebook, Pinterest and YouTube.


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Friday, 29 June 2018

Baby Led Weaning - What I Need To Know

Fraser - 5 months old

I started writing this post around 3 weeks ago and as is the case with most parents of little ones there never seems to be enough time and before you know it a few weeks have passed and you haven't finished doing that thing you started. So here I am finishing this post, since now my baby is over 6 months (😱how on earth did that happen!!! I blink and six months have passed). And we have started the weaning process. I will share more on how things are going in the coming weeks and months, but for now here is this post.

Thursday, 28 June 2018

Easy Bathroom Upgrades That Have A Big Impact



Does your bathroom need a bit of TLC? We often tend to put off bathroom upgrades because we assume that they are going to require a lot of money and a lot of effort, but this does not have to be the case. There are some bathroom upgrades that are easy yet make a big impact. Read on to discover some suggestions.

Wednesday, 27 June 2018

Black Forest Cherry Trifle - Recipe



If you're looking for a super easy dessert that is sure to wow your friends and family, this is the recipe for you. Below is the basic recipe I make, but you can try different variations and add in other layers. You could add in chocolate mousse, chocolate digestive biscuits. You could add fresh cherries on top for decorations. Have a play and see what you can come up with.

If you're looking for a trifle bowl similar to mine you can get one on Amazon


They definitely make a statement out of this simple dessert.
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