Monday, 18 June 2018

Not Too Old To Be Mum - Nicky

This week’s "Not Too Old To Be Mum" is with Nicky from Spinnin Plates.

First of all congratulations on your baby. How old were you when you had your baby/babies?
I was ages 27 and 29 for my first two, who are now 18 and 20 years old and aged 40 for my third, who has just turned 8.

Tell me a bit about yourself and your main reasons for having a child(ren) after the age of 35?
My personal life changed dramatically and I was starting again with my youngest two children in my own home.  
During this time I also welcomed a new love into my life.  He did not have children but longed for one.  However,  I REALLY wasn't keen on having any more due to being quite poorly with both pregnancies with chronic sickness.  
I was also starting to see the light at the end of the exhaustion tunnel of mummyhood!  Freedom was in sight! The older two where into double figures and that brings many benefits as a parent.
However, I felt pressure to try for my partner and wanted to offer him the joy of being a Daddy.  So at the age of 39 we tried!  

Did you have any problems with falling pregnant? If you did, would you say age was a contributing factor?
Surprisingly I got caught literally on our first practice run!  More surprising as I had been told I was also peri-menopausal.
Did you have any complications with your pregnancy or labour that you feel were caused by being older?
As mentioned previously, I had morning, noon and night sickness throughout my previous pregnancies.  However, my third pregnancy I was sick from day 2 of conception, at 4 weeks I was in a hospital on a drip, and my pregnancy continued with severe Hyperemesis Gravidarum.  Not age-related and completely to do with my bodies inability to carry a child without throwing up!
Were you treated differently by medical professionals because of your age? If you were, how did that make you feel?
Interestingly no I wasn't.  In fact, as I worked in the maternity department at the time, I knew the team very well and I had amazing support throughout my pregnancy.  I was unable to work through most of it as I was either in the hospital bed or at home in bed.  Not a shining example of pregnancy in the maternity department!
If you had children before and after you were 35, were there any differences with the pregnancy, labour and you as a parent? Would you put these down to age differences?
No differences with pregnancy other than what was stated above.  During labour I was left to it more, as I'd had 2 previous children.  This was no reflection on age at all.  
The only negative or shocked reactions were from family and friends!  Most assumed it was 'a mistake' and were surprised that it was a planned pregnancy!  The medical professionals made no mention of it apart from the implications of age vs risk.
What do you feel are the pros and cons for having a baby after 35?
Having had two children in my twenties and one in my 40's, I cannot compare as those who did one or the other.   I was no more or less tired at either age, I was probably more relaxed with my last, but I feel this is more to do with experience of having previous children than my age.

Do you plan on having any more children? If not, what are your main reasons? And if you would like more, what worries you the most about the prospect of having more?
Absolutely no way would I have more!  When I decided to try for a child a month away from 40, I said if I didn't get caught quickly, that I would give up and move on.  Of course, this was after having two children previously.  Due to my serious illness during pregnancy and the effect on my mental health due to HG, I would never contemplate having another child.

If you could do your time over, would you choose to have your children younger?
If I had my time again, I would have children in my late 20's, no later.  The reasons for this are that now I'm nearly 49, I would like to start enjoying life for me, have my own adventures and yes, be a little selfish and indulgent! Instead, I have my lil man beside me for another decade at least.  
The pressure I feel to keep healthy and be around for as long as possible for him is immense and I worry about not being around for him as the years tick by.  This is in no way negative, but more realistic.  When having a family in your 20's, the probability of you being, fit, healthy and around for a good length of time I'm sure is higher, than it is for me now.

What advice do you have for any women thinking of having a child past the age of 35?
Go for it, but make sure you've experienced everything you want to before then, prepare financially and remember you will be heading into maturity with more weight on your shoulder and on your bank balance!  
You want to be fit and healthy as a parent, so take your health seriously to ensure you're around and able for as long as possible.  We can pretend age doesn't matter, but those aches and pains start to come when you least expect it!​
Ignore what people think of you having a child at a different age than what people perceive as the norm.  Don't feel pressured to fit into a box, do things your way, but ensure you make an informed decision!

Thanks for taking part Nicky and sharing your story. If you’d like to hear more from Nicky, you can visit her at heblog.

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Saturday, 16 June 2018

No Central Heating System, No Problem! Here are Three Alternative Heating Sources

Gas central heating is one of the cheapest and most popular ways to heat homes, however it’s just not an option for some people. Around four million households in the UK aren’t connected to the gas mains, and if you’ve found yourself in this situation it can be a little tricky to know what to do. Perhaps you’ve moved into your dream home, but it doesn’t have gas central heating, or maybe you’ve built a property from scratch and connecting to the mains was too expensive or not possible. Sometimes just having gas pipes moved a couple of metres can cost thousands of pounds, so it makes better financial sense to look into alternatives. Here are three alternatives to gas when it comes to heating your home.

Wednesday, 13 June 2018

Envious Interior Design

How much of an eye would you say that you have for interior design? Some people are so hot on it, that their home can look like a mismatch that you just don’t want to deal with. Some have a keen eye for interior design, and make a room look absolutely stunning. Some are on the edge of knowing what’s what, but there are some things that could be done to improve the quality of their choice. Then there are the ones that just have no concept of interior design, and the ideas that they have just make no sense to the home that they have. Now, it doesn’t matter what category you fall under, you should still be making some right decisions towards some envious interior design. To nudge you in the right direction, we’ve got some great tips for you to help you achieve it.

Monday, 11 June 2018

Not Too Old To Be Mum - Christy

This week’s "Not Too Old To Be Mum" is with Christy from Welsh Mum.

First of all congratulations on your baby. How old were you when you had your baby/babies?

I was 34 when I conceived and 35 when I gave birth to my son last year.
Tell me a bit about yourself and your main reasons for having a child(ren) after the age of 35?
I'm Christy and I live in South Wales with my husband and son. I started writing my blog shortly after the birth of my son when I was 35 as I wanted to share my journey and experiences. Having a baby later in life was not really a choice for us. We started trying for a baby when I was 25 when we had been married for a year. It took us 9 years to conceive due to a few health problems, including PCOS and Endometriosis. For the longest time we didn't expect to be able to have a child at all and feel very blessed that we got there in the end. It showed us how strong we are as people and how strong our marriage was.

Friday, 8 June 2018

Boosting Your Property’s Kerb Appeal

No matter whether you are planning on selling your property in the near future or not, boosting its kerb appeal is well worth doing. Not only will this make your house more attractive and increase the value of it, but also it will create a beautiful impression on anyone that passes it by. After all, the exterior of any property is the first thing that people notice. First impressions count. This sets the tone for the rest of your house, so you need to make the right type of impression. With that in mind, read on to discover some of the effective ways you can increase the exterior appearance of your property.

Monday, 4 June 2018

Not Too Old To Be Mum - Cat

This week’s "Not Too Old To Be Mum" is with Cat from Mama Cat + Baby Bee.

First of all congratulations on your baby. How old were you when you had your baby/babies?
I was 34 yrs and 3 months when I gave birth to my daughter nearly 3 years ago. I’m now pregnant again and will be 37 yrs and 3 months old when I give birth. 

Friday, 1 June 2018

Can Plants in the Bedroom Help You Sleep?

The number of ways your sleep can be disrupted when you're a parent can seem insurmountable. Everything from crying babies and sick kids to financial concerns and street noise can wake you up and keep you tossing and turning for hours. However, there are ways to improve your chances of getting a good night's rest. Adults need seven to eight hours of sleep, but parents sometimes have to try to get as much sleep as possible.

One of today’s most popular interior design trends involves bringing nature indoors. What better place to surround yourself with nature than in your bedroom?

Monday, 28 May 2018

Not Too Old To Be Mum - Mairéad

This week’s "Not Too Old To Be Mum" is with Mairéad from Experimentangled.

First of all congratulations on your baby. How old were you when you had your baby/babies?

First baby at 36, second last year at 38. 

Tell me a bit about yourself and your main reasons for having a child(ren) after the age of 35?

I didn't meet my partner until I was 34. So really not an option before that!

Monday, 21 May 2018

Not Too Old To Be Mum - Mary

This week’s "Not Too Old To Be Mum" is with Mary from Over 40 and a Mum to One

First of all congratulations on your baby. How old were you when you had your baby/babies?
I'm what is apparently now classed as a 'geriatric' mum - I was 41 when my son was born in 2009.
Tell me a bit about yourself and your main reasons for having a child(ren) after the age of 35?
I'm Mary, just turned 50 and a Mum to one 8 year old boy. I've run Over 40 and a Mum to One for five years now, sharing my adventures with my son. I was always very career driven and although I loved being an Auntie I'd never really considered having children of my own.  All that changed when I got divorced at 39 after being with my then husband for over twenty years.  I questioned everything that I'd believed in and realised that I could have so much more.  I met someone else, he didn't have children either and we decided that if we were going to have a family we'd need to start trying sooner than later.

Saturday, 19 May 2018

7 Stunning Tips for Creating Grown Up Space in a Crowded Family Home!

When you have a family your life becomes much more chaotic and stressful. As the kids grow you find you have less and less space at home, and this can be an issue. You don’t want to deal with living on top of one another all the time, as this can lead to more stress and problems. Also, as parents, you spend so much time tending to the kids that you often forget to make time for yourself.

It’s important for parents to have space to unwind and relax, and just enjoy a bit of their own time away from the kids. However, as the home becomes more and more busy (and stressful), this might become more difficult to do. So it might mean getting creative and coming up with ways of creating more grown-up space in the crowded home. Here are some excellent ideas for how to get your adulting fix right now!

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